One of the greatest sources of disappointment in dating again at midlife is expectations. We want things to be, look, or feel a certain way... and it hurts when we encounter someone who doesn’t live up to that. Abut is the problem theirs? We like to think so... but the problem lies with US.

Nobody likes to hear that. But it’s true. We THINK we want something and in reality we don’t know what we want... so we venture out there without a purpose or intent and are disappointed...

Know why you are doing this... and HERE is the kicker... A LIFE PARTNER is NOT always the end goal. YOUR intent, expectations, why, and wants cam change... and THATS OK.

The key is to know what YOU really want right now... AND do t be upset if someone else is nit aligned with YOU right now. It is NOT a reflection on YOU OR THEM.

Key Themes

* BE intentional. Why are you doing this. What do you want right now.

* The biggest disappointment is expecting something from someone who doesn’t have it to give... because WE didn’t listen.

* It’s OK to want what you want.. and for them to want what they want.

* It changes

* Not everyone wants a long term partner, soul mate, committed relationship

* It only hurts when you aren’t on the same page and you lied to yourself

* Same page is great.. same stage of life is better

* Ask “what does your life look like over the next 24 months” ... ask them AND ask yourself

* Don’t be afraid to communicate what you want... and believe and respect when someone else tells you where they are and it’s different than yours .

Reflections | Q’s

* What is your current situation?

* How long since your last relationship?

* WHY are you seeking a relationship?

* WHY now?

* What’s your purpose | expectation ? Short term long term.

* What if you met someone great... BUT they wanted something different or weren’t at the same stage of life you’re at right now.